I walked out of a 20 year marrige not just a relationship, we had children together. Truth be told it was longer than that, cause we dated for a while berfore we were married. I got fed up with his behavior and I left. He still says that he didn't know there was anything wrong. So speaking from personal experience... Ya, she could have been telling you something you weren't hearing, just like you are not hearing now. She got tired of the same old crap and left. It happens, people get sick of other peoples crap, and they leave.

What you really need to do is LISTEN to her. Quit with all the grasping, needy, self serving crap and LISTEN. Then you have to live with what nshe tells you.

I'm certain that my ex thinks someone cast some sort of spell, but the reality of the situation is that I had a rude awakening. He wasn't just a jerk to me, he is a jerk to everyone he meets. But he thinks he is just misunderstood. See any similarity? I do.

Well heroheidR actually i am belong from some different social and cultural values but i am only one woman person i am good listener and what ever happen in this relationship it was our mutual understanding because you know in relationship both have equal wrights to say and we plan each and everything.
And in our relationship we are so happy from each and every aspect of life but you know in different social and cultural values people are so stubborn with their cast system so due the their EGO they do that.
Anyways i keep praying to GOD to rid of all the bad things happen with her and i am sure when all the bad things are gone she will be back and i am waiting for that day.
I keep my finger cross and hope for all the best.

You say these things like you assume that I am not a monogamous person... And as I thought... You still will not take a clear and objective look at the relationship. You sound just like my ex. Everyone elses fault but your own.

i am very sure and clear about my objective. What is my fault tell me love someone with either you heart and soul you call this is mistake then yes i did mistake.
But me and my GOD know what is reality and no one can feel what i am feeling now. No single second of whole day in which my heart is not prayers for our relationship.
Anyways i came here just for opinion not doing arguments but anyhow thanks for you kind suggestion and comments.

try sending an email to this person...lekanysf01@yahoo.co.uk...he is in africa..and he has helped me a lot...hope he helps you out as well

Sounds like she got cold feet to me, maybe this person is not ready to get married, as sad as it is to say it would be better for her to back out of a relationship now than to get married and then decide she wants out, as others here have said, give her some time, she may come around and try not to pressure her, sometimes that makes matters worse, good luck hope things work out for both of you.